The majority of career advisors in Australia work part-time, which probably doesn’t help the whole ‘smooth transition from school into a proper career’ thing.

According to our research, only 26% of you turn to them for advice. But it’s no wonder, how the heck would they have enough time to get to everyone?

I’ve been out of school for a little while now and here are five pep talks I wish my career advisor gave me:

1. You’re probably never going to know what you actually want to do

I mean sure, you will find things you like doing and want to do for a long time, but there will always be a sense of dissatisfaction, of wondering ‘what if’.

For many people that feeling will never, ever go away.

We will always be yearning for something more. That is okay–it’s a part of life!

You go through stages of being content and stages of being completely restless.

Adults are just lost teenagers in wrinkly bodies. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself, you’ll work it out eventually.

2. There are so many ways to get where you want to be

There are so many ways to get from A to B. There are private colleges, TAFEs, universities, internships and straight up employment. Sometimes where you want to be requires a gap year or two so you can actually figure it out.

There’s no set path or one way street to where you want to be, so don’t freak out if it takes a while to figure out the way to get there.

3. There is no rush

You’re a teenager so chill out and don’t feel like you need to make some crazy decision about the rest of your life right now.

Nothing is binding. You are only confined to the box you put yourself in.

If you don’t know what you want to do that is perfectly normal. Find a job and talk to interesting people and read books about inspirational things.

It will come to you, but it doesn’t need to be now.

Life isn’t a curriculum with syllabus points you need to tick and master. There is no set schedule. There is no checklist determined by some Board of Life or something. Write your own damn list.

4. Your ATAR does not define you

So you screw up your ATAR? So what? Tell me what this changes please, in the long run? Nobody is going to remember your ATAR when you die, people are going to remember what you made of your life.

If a shit ATAR means changing your uni preferences that’s fine–there are plenty who will accept you anyway and if not, you can enter university as a ‘mature aged’ student at 21 anyway. That’s still young; go and have a few years of fun dammit, you’ve only got one life.

5. ‘Commitment’ is overrated

If you don’t like your degree, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit it. Don’t be a fool and leave yourself with nothing, always make sure you’re moving from one thing to another… but have fun with your options.

The concept of ‘commitment’ is bullshit if you hate what you’re doing.

We’re told not to ‘commit’ to an unhealthy relationship that damages our self-esteem and mental health, so don’t feel pressured to ‘commit’ to something that evokes the same feelings–whether it’s a degree, a job, a career plan or a relationship.

Work hard, push through the challenges, but don’t hurt your mind. That goes for Year 12, too.