2018 is about to finish and you need a wake up call.

The bringing in of the new year gets people really drunk and really bitter. How many times have you heard people go on the stereotypical rant of “2018 sucked, 2019 is going to be so much better”, only to come to the exact same conclusion 365 days later?

Here’s the thing, if this sounds like you, chances are, the year didn’t suck–you did.

Every year starts the same. You have a renewed sense of purpose and work ethic, ready to take on what you think will be the best goddam year of your life. A mixture of false idealism and expectations will eventually throw you into a rut and you get to the end of the year annoyed at what could’ve been.

If you’re feeling angry at your perceived wasted year, think about why. How many times did you surround yourself with people who make you unhappy? How many times did your procrastination get in the way of achieving what you wanted? How many times did you feel shit after doing something unhealthy? These are all you-problems, and the beauty of you-problems is that you can fix them without the help of anyone but yourself.

Don’t blame other people for things that are self-inflicted; look at yourself and remember you have agency in making yourself happy.

Go to parties. Make yourself a salad. Get drunk. Go to the gym. Find new friends if you have to. Actually finish that thing; you know what it is, that thing you’ve been putting off for months–just go do it. Be realistic about the year that’s about to slap you in the face.

2018 wasn’t bad. It wasn’t good. It was both, like people are. Shocking revelation, we know.

But, the sooner that you come to terms with this, the sooner you’ll stop judging your happiness on an arbitrary measurement of time decided by Julius Caesar. (If nothing else, remember, time is a construct and we’re all living our lives and doing our thing at our own pace.)

Start 2019 by being yourself and by surrounding yourself with people who like that person. Find joy in being alone. Find joy in working hard, in whatever that may be.

This is all far easier in theory than in practice, and it may take you a while to figure that out; just don’t give yourself a time limit. In the end, it’s worth it, and you’re worth it.

(Yes I just stole to the L’Oréal slogan to wrap up this article, don’t judge me.)

Happy new year from Year13, drink a mojito for us and look out for yourself in 2019.