Help! My Friend Got In A Relationship And Forgot About Me

Ok, so your best friend has literally gone missing, not really - but kinda. Most likely they’ve been swept off their feet into the vortex of a romantic relationship, so they might as well have been abducted by aliens. Suddenly, they’re not responding to your texts, they’re ghosting you on social media and it’s just crickets really. So, what does one do in this mysterious disappearing act? We’ve got some tips and tricks to help you navigate this friendship Bermuda triangle. 

 Do Your Initial Investigation:  

So before you start panicking, take some deep breaths. It’s so normal for people to get wrapped up in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship, and it’s quite normal for this honeymoon phase to last a while. Give your friend a little time to live it up in their newfound love glow. You will need to resist the urge to stage a search party just yet. 

 Channel The Inner Detective:  

OK so you’ve allowed your bff a bit of breathing room now, it might be time to channel your inner Sherlock. Use those detective skills for good - to decipher the mystery of the vanishing best friend. Are they constantly glued to their phone? Giggling like a schoolgirl? chances are they have fallen head over heels. Pro tip: stalking their social media is acceptable if it’s for a good cause.  

 The Friendly Reminder: Still No Contact? 

 It might be time to remind them that you actually exist. You’ve waited around, you’ve investigated and you’re still feeling a little neglected - I mean fair enough. Shoot them a casual text or DM it can be a little something like “Hey there, remember me?”. A subtle reminder that you exist can work wonders. 

 Group Hangs To The Rescue:  

Look, if your one-on-one strategy isn’t yielding results, consider the power of a group hangout. Invite your friend and the newfound love interest to have a little group catch-up. Look if they really are that attached at the hip you might just have to start going with it. You might find you love hanging out with the two of them together. 

 Be The Friend You’d Want In This Situation: 

Try have a think about if it was you in the situation, you would want your friend to be happy for you, right?  

Remember the golden rule: treat others how you want to be treated. If you were the one in love, you’d appreciate a friend who understands and supports your happiness. So be that friend , give them the space they need, but also let them know you’re there when they’re ready to resurface from the love bubble. 

 Communication Is Key:  

Ok look, if all else fails and your friend is still completely off the radar, it’s time for a heart-to-heart. Be open and honest about how you are feeling. Honesty is not a crime but try approach it with a sprinkle of understanding. Maybe they don’t even realise how MIA they have been – I mean, they call it a love bubble for a reason. They are only just getting used to navigating the delicate dance of balancing romance and friendship. 

As people get older and you are all getting into relationships it’s only natural for friendships to change and it can take a bit of getting used to, but it’s not forever. It can be a wild ride but with a dash of patience, understanding, and a hint of humour, all will be back to normal in no time. 

After all the true friendships in your life will be able to weather any storm, even the storm of a new love. So embrace the mystery in it all; the best friendships are the ones that survive the disappearing acts.