07 Apr 2021

Am I not smart enough? Not creative enough? Not funny enough? Not good-looking enough? Not outgoing enough?? 

Am I just not enough...?

All the movies shove the idea of falling in love down our throats. We're brought up thinking that being in a relationship is the mothership of goals. Once you're in one, bingo! Life sorted, right?!

And there I was, peering through my telescope searching for the mothership. Hello?? I'm right here?? Where are ya?!

Isn't my soulmate supposed to be knocking me out with a door and apologising with a cheeky grin as I scowl. We immediately hate each other, but inevitably realise that we're a perfect match. Or maybe they're supposed to be in a band on stage, the spotlight shines on me in the audience and we look at each other and think 'we're gonna get married. Or maybe, we've been best mates all along and just haven't realised that we're two halves of a whole... I was waiting waiting waiting for my movie magic meet-cute...

But alas, my life was as romantic as The Shining... I was about ready to sue Cupid... 

Kidding kidding! But seriously, it's easy to compare your life to movies. To question yourself and doubt whether you'll ever find someone. It can feel lonely and isolating, especially when you're constantly stuck third-wheeling with your loved up mates. My new years was literally surrounded by couples macking off and I just stood there like a sad sack of potatoes, waiting for them to pause from their saliva exchanges and acknowledge my existence too.

It's easy to feel a little self-conscious too. To think man, am I really not good enough to be in a relationship?? It can really dig a hole in your psyche. I remember I used to become SO awkward around potential matches. I spent the whole time second and third guessing what to say instead of just being my bangin' self. 

And you're bangin' too. Yeah, you. Reading this. You're single? So what! Say it with me! "So what!".

The second I let go of all my doubt, self-pity, embarrassment and self conciousness, I felt so relieved. A weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

So let it go! Focus on yourself. Focus on your grades, your job, your hobbies. Learn how to speak French or buy a surfboard. Hang with your mates. Boogie like you don't care. Be your beautiful, bangin' self. A relationship may just be in the mail, but guess what, you don't need it. I don't need it. I'm thriving over here thank you very much!

You are enough. So start acting that way. Start treating yourself that way.