05 Jun 2021

If you’re not ready to tear up the dance floor, get amongst a sweaty crowd or the thought of trying to get a drink amongst ten other people at a bar is unbearable to you, then that is so okay. If you think showering after work, having an early dinner and snuggling into bed at 7:00pm watching movies, catching up on YouTube videos or playing Animal Crossing is your idea of a perfect Friday night, then I’m happy for you (and that sounds amazing).

Your mates will always be there egging you on to come out for a night out. If you’ve gained a reputation being that friend, then sick, they’ll love it when you actually do show up. But the truth is, unless it’s a birthday party or a dinner that’s been planned for months, is it really worth it? The cost of drinks, the Uber ride home and the three pizza slices you bought from the kebab shop? While it is a hefty hit to your bank account, in all honesty, yes that sounds like a good time but if you’re not feeling it, don’t feel like you’re missing out.

 

Although FOMO (fear of missing out) is a serious thing that stills irks me, the way I see it is if it out of my control, for example I’ve got work and I can’t attend, the FOMO hurts bad but if I choose to take a night to myself and not go, it’s not the worst thing in the world. I’m cherishing an extra long steamy shower with a sugar scrub. I’m treating my hair to a mask. I’m ordering take-out and watching reruns of How I Met Your Mother. I’m spending time with my dog. I’m having a bloody good time.

Some nights are not always good nights. You’ll get into an argument with your boyfriend. You’ll get kicked out of the club. Your friend ditches you for someone else. You’re not vibing with the music and all of a sudden you wished you stayed home. A night out is not the be all and end all and believe me when I say that that nobody is going to remember the time you didn’t go but will always recall the times you came and had a great time. 

Sure, you won’t understand those inside jokes that were curated that night or you’ll hear stories about the night your friend hooked up with their crush and you weren’t there but in the scope of things, there will always be other nights to create more memories. Let it go, put your feet up and know that you're right where you want to be.