13 Nov 2022 | 2 mins
Overview
  • The ending of that first relationship is bound to be the hardest.
  • With no expectations to lead the next few days, weeks and months it can feel like all is up in the air.
  • Here are the 3 reasons why your first break up will be the hardest.

1. No prior experience

With nothing to compare it to, and no other ex to lead the expectation for what could, should and will happen in the coming days it can feel like anything can happen.

Figuring out how to feel is almost the hardest part. From being so close to someone for a period of time to not seeing them is a tough wake up call. So don’t set expectations for yourself.

You do not need to get over them within the span of a week, or you are absolutely welcome to get over them in the span of a week. You can set the path to your break upThis is not something you have gone through so you can set the path to look like whatever you want.

2. Letting go

Figuring out when it’s time to let go can be hard to measure.

When the relationship comes to a close holding on to that frustration, anger and sadness is absolutely necessary. But you don’t have to hold on to that forever. You can let go of them whenever it feels right for you.

The best way to figure this out is through figuring out whether your everyday usual life activities are being interrupted too much. If you feel like you are getting to the point where you are sad for the sake of being sad, it's probably about time to get back into the world. But even then, there is no pressure to get back into the dating scene.

Figuring out the timing of everything is gonna take some time, and you don’t have to get it right the first time either.

3. Overall emotional rollercoaster

The ending to your first relationship is just generally going to be an emotional rollercoaster. With no expereince prior the concept of okay well i've gone through this before and I was fine is just non existent. 

You're going to cry, you're going to laugh, and you may be really really mad. But your emotions are not something that you need to hold in and bottle up. The rollercoaster of emotions will slow down.

Whether it takes a few weeks or months you will be able to get back out into the world. The world will keep spinning and tomorrow will bring another day with excitement to behold, so take each day as it comes and you'll be alright.