How To Cope If You've Been Ghosted

There's no two ways about it – ghosting is pretty rubbish. Rejection is hard enough already. But when the person you've been seeing doesn't even have the courtesy to tell you why they don't see things progressing, it hits pretty hard. In the current dating landscape, being able to bounce back from a ghosting is key, so here are a few little tips to help you deal. 

Avoid Their Socials

It’s only natural to want to have a cheeky little stalk when any relationship or situationship breaks down. There’s an intrigue that only social media can satisfy. Are they talking to someone else? Are they living it up on their own? Or is their life dull af? While having those answers are great, nothing compares to the flex of not caring. They’ll be checking if you’re looking at their stories, so don’t give them the satisfaction of seeing your name pop up. Plus, the more time you spend stalking them, the more time you spend thinking about them. And the more time you spend thinking about them, the more you’ll be dwelling on the fact that they ghosted you. Instead, leave them in the past, where they belong, and start new relationships that are more fulfilling than theirs would ever have been.

Go Easy On Yourself

After being ghosted, it’s pretty easy to blame yourself for the situation, but really it’s the person ghosting you who's showing their true colours. Regardless of why they didn’t see the relationship going further, remind yourself that you’re an absolute catch and they just missed out on the best thing that would ever happen to them. On the other hand, you’re not missing out on much at all. In fact you’ve actually dodged a bullet. If someone has ghosted you, it’s a pretty telling sign that they aren’t the healthiest person to be in a relationship with. If they don’t have the decency to at least tell you they don’t see things moving further, imagine the things they'd be keeping in if you were dating them.

Call Them Out, But Keep It Concise

If you’re feeling like calling them out, a simple “nice chat” could do the trick. If that is going to make you feel better, absolutely go for it. But really the best solution is to keep quiet and show them what they missed out on. Make them regret it by showing them you're thriving on your own. I know for a matter of fact they will most likely try hitting you up again when they realise what they’ve missed out on. By the time this comes around you will probably have no interest in them anymore, or need anything to do with them. Full circle moment.

Try To Be Empathetic

If you’ve just been ghosted, empathy is probably the last thing you’ll be feeling, but it could actually make you feel a whole lot better. When you’re driving and someone speeds past and cuts you off like a hoon, one of the best ways to stay calm is to assume they have diarrhoea and are absolutely desperate to get home. Similar to this, when it comes to ghosting alot of people avoid situations where they feel they could potentially get hurt, this is where you can gather a sense of empathy towards a person. Even if that’s not the case (which most the time when it comes to ghosting it is) what's the harm in thinking that way? 

At the end of the day, being ghosted is going to really suck. You will find your mind keeps wanting to come back to it and try to figure out why it happened. Unfortunately, unless you ask them, you're never going to know the answer – and that's okay. As soon as you learn to let go of people who bring nothing to your table you will see how you flourish. Trust me, they will see it too. But unfortunately for them though it will be from afar.