How To Tell Someone You're Not Vibing

It’s a hard life being the object of someone’s affection. Whilst the initial flattery of being interested in can make anyone feel cooler than a cucumber, it can sometimes be hard to break the news that the feeling has never been mutual, or even if the feeling is no longer mutual.

Telling someone you are not vibing is a tricky task, but there’s ways you can attempt to make sure you don’t end up in an emotional train-wreck. 🥵

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1. Be empathetic

Simply put, sometimes you can’t help if you are not vibing with someone, whether that be a friend or a potential partner.

It's quite easy to dismiss that as something that isn’t your problem. But people have feelings and it’s best to be empathetic, even if you don’t really owe the person anything.

Before shrugging them off completely, give them a chance, and if it’s still not easy breezy beautiful covergirl, then you can begin to slowly but surely stop seeing them. 

Always remember that everyone is human, regardless of how off their vibe is. ✨

2. Ghost, but in a nice way

Now I know that I just said be empathetic, but hear me out.

Depending on the relationship, there’s no real reason to do a big song and dance about breaking up a friendship or whatever. If it's just someone who might want to be friends, but you can see already that the vibe is off, you’re allowed to be distant and even (I hate to say it) ghost them.

This isn’t to say completely ignore the person, but you’re allowed to hang out with whoever you like. Forcing a friendship or relationship that just doesn't have potential will be a huge disservice to the two of you. 😵‍💫

This advice is unfortunately not applicable if you’re in a long-term relationship or if you’re angry at your brother or something, you miiiiiiight have to have a more concrete discussion.

3. Be straight up if you have to

No one said telling someone you're not vibing was an easy task, but it must be done. 🤧

If someone is continuing to pester you when you aren’t interested, sometimes the simplest way to move on is to be honest. If it’s a potential friend and you’ve tried to send subtle messages that you aren't keen, you can just tell them: ‘I'm really sorry but I don’t think I have time for any other friends right now, this has nothing to do with you, but I think I should spend more time looking after the friendships I already have”.

This is honestly a last-resort option, because these sorts of conversations are uncomfortable af. But if all else has failed, it could be your best bet in getting your message across. If it’s someone you’re seeing romantically but only casually, you can use this same cheat-sheet!

A ~good~ vibe can’t be forced. If you're not vibing, you're just simply not vibing. But when you vibe, you truly vibe. You feel me? 😅