How To Get Over A Crush

A new crush can be all kinds of unreal. You're actually keen to go to school or work (so you can see them ofc), and you can't stop daydreaming up scenarios of you two bumping into each other. Just that comment they said the other day that was only 3% flirty sent you in a whirlwind.

A new crush can also suck. 👀 Maybe they're taken, maybe they don't float that way, maybe you guys are mates and it's not worth ruining that, or maybe they're just not that into you. 

So you're having a hard time moving on... Here's what to do next. 

Accept the heartbreak 💔

To heal, you'll need a bit of acknowledgment and acceptance -- it'll prevent the crush from lingering, and getting even worse. 

Journal. Voice memo to yourself. Spill it all to a mate. Write a poem or a song. Let out your heartbreak into the universe. Acknowledge that you're feeling blue and accept it. 

Soon, you'll be sick of talking about it. Sick of thinking about it. Sick of agonising over it. Soon you'll truly believe that there will be another crush. This too shall pass. 💕

Think realistically 🧐 

A lot of the time a crush is worked up severely in our head, especially when we don’t know the person well. We play out scenarios in our head, making up how they'd act, their interests, their banter... IRL, they may be nothing like they are in your imagination. Take down your crush from the pedestal you put them on because guess what, they're not perfect. Nobody is.

It may be time to think realistically. Do you actually have things to talk about? Do you have similar interests and values? Do you actually like them, or the idea of them?

I mean, you two may get along like a house on fire in some ways, you may clash in others that you ignored previously. Maybe you're the life of the party but they hate socialising. Maybe you’re vegan but they froth meat. Maybe you wanna travel the world, but they'd rather get straight into full-time work... 

Distract yourself 🎨

It's not easy to stop the brain from obsessing over they-who-shall-not-be-named so distraction may be your best bet. 

Spend time pursuing activities that make you stoked. Hang with your mates, keep learning the guitar, re-read your fave book series, and sign up for painting classes... 

Check out all these things and people that you adore that don't involve your crush. 

Stop stalking their social media 📱

Let's all remember that social media shows an airbrushed version of peoples' lives. Checking their Insta 24/7 reminds you of how unreal they are... and up goes the pedestal again.

Not to mention, constant exposure just burns you again and again and again, reminding you that you can't have them. 😳 So hide or mute their posts from your feed and stop yourself from stalking. If it means deleting Instagram for a hot min, so be it. 

Remember your worth 🌈

There's a parable about a man who journeyed all over the globe to find the woman of his dreams - when he finally found her and explained this to her, she responded with, “but you’re not the man of mine”. 

Unrequited love blows. But at the end of the day, their feelings don’t reflect who you are. You're a lord with or without them. See, not everyone is going to crush on you back, but the right person will. Trust the process. ❤️‍🔥