30 Oct 2022 | 4 mins

Okay. Bare with me here.

Say I can offer you the opportunity to go back in time, whether that be a few months or a few years. Who would you ask out?

Chances are, there are a fair few people you feel like you missed your chance with. People that you wish you just plucked up the courage to ask ye age ol' question to. People you genuinely could have had a chance with if you just bit the bullet.

You don't want to look back at yourself now and be thinking the same thing. "Bugger, I wish I asked out that girl in my lectures that always wore tie-dye band shirts" or "damn, why didn't I just slide into the dm's of that hilarious guy I met at that party"... 

So... just ask them out! Just do it!

Okay no no no I know I know, easier said than done, right. But hear me out.

Asking them out will get rid of the constant suspense of "will we, won't we". It'll give you closure. 

Worst case scenario is that they say no. Yeah, that sounds blunt and pretty earth-shatteringly horrible. But you will live on. Seriously, it's all a story and it's all character building. And you know what they say; when one door closes, another opens. 😉You will just be all the wise and glad tbh. Now you can focus your energy on someone else. You will laugh about this with your mates and you'll move on. I promise.

But we haven't even gotten to the fun part! They might just say yes. They seriously could say a big-fat-whopping YES! You could save years of sexual tension between you two and just get the show on the road. You could save the heartache of seeing them jump into another relationship because nothing ever really happened between you guys. You could save yourself from always feeling disappointed that you haven't just made a move already. 

This may be absolutely nuts and may not make any sense (I've seriously watched Back To The Future way too many times), but when I'm scared to ask someone out, I pretend that I actually am from the future...

Huh? No, but seriously. I pretend like this is just future Izzy shooting her shot for sh*ts and giggles. I let go of the stakes and the attachment. I kind of knock my crush off the pedestal that I've put them on. I mean, we're all human right? When we develop feelings for someone, it's easy to focus on what makes them red hot and worship them as if they're a god. Then we get all frazzled around them, feeling inadequate and less-than. 

My whole wackjob "future Izzy" idea really just puts things into perspective for me. They're just human. Maybe this is savage, but they aren't special. So just SEND IT! Just do it! You seriously have nothing to lose. 

Don't be stuck with regrets. Be stuck with memories. If they're a success, heck yes! If they're a fail, it's just another funny story to add to the novel of your life. 

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back row... JUST ASK THEM OUT!