20 Mar 2023 | 2 mins
Overview
  • You don’t need to be surrounded by people to feel worthy
  • You have actual time for your mates
  • Quality over quantity
  • Companionship needs vary from person to person

It seems like having a chockers social calendar is the ultimate dream. Being popular, being surrounded by tonnes of mates. Always posting Insta stories of the debauchery you get up to with your pals on the weekend.

But what if you don't particularly want that or have that? 

The truth is, there's nothing wrong with only having a few friends. Nothing.

You don’t need to be surrounded by people to feel worthy

Tonnes of Instagram likes and event invites doesn't validate you. It doesn't make you loved, cool, or worthy. 

The only person that can validate you, is agh, you. 

You have actual time for your mates

To truly interact with our mates, to listen, to learn, to talk absolute smack with, and get up to mischief with, we need time! If you have mates up the wazoo, you might be a little emotionally saturated.

The truth is, as we get older, we get busier. Eek. Career, working overtime, gym, life admin like dentist appointments and skin checks, errands like washing and grocery shopping... Having just a handful of mates will lower the chances of drifting apart when life becomes a whirlwind. I mean, it's easier to give your free time to one or two people than twenty. 

Quality over quantity

The quality of the relationship matters so so much more than the number of friends. As said beforehand, you have more time to foster relationships with your mates rather than diluting yourself.

I'd rather have one friend that knows me inside out than fifty acquaintances that don't even know my middle name. 

Companionship needs vary from person to person

Some people crave a lot of social time, so having a tonne of mates and acquaintances is their jam. Others don't.

If you're more introverted, you might feel most comfortable with a few close friends as excessive socialising can drain your energy. 

Introversion isn't a flaw! Introverted people often have few friends because they thrive best without constant companionship and love and appreciate their solitude. In solitude we get to know ourselves more, get to be productive, creative and inspired. Honour that you love your own company - because that's unreal!