5 Questions To Ask Your SO After 3 Months

So you’ve been together for three months. It might not seem like a long time, but this is a crucial stage in any relationship when it comes to deciding whether you’re right for each other. You'll probably be keeping an eye out for green flags, and red ones too. So we've put together five questions that will help you get to know your significant other a bit better.

What Do You Hope Your Life Looks Like In Five Years?

This is a great way to find out what your significant other values, and what they want to achieve in the near future. But don't stress if you don’t see yourself fitting in with their ideal life, it doesn’t mean you can’t work well together. 

You’re still young, so your goals can change a lot as you both grow over the next few years. But it will still give you a good idea of what they want their life to look like down the track.

What’s Your Love Language?

Knowing each other's love language is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship, so you both always feel supported. This question could be slightly difficult to answer off the top of their head, so it can be best to ask when you’re able to look up the different love languages and what they mean.

Having matching love languages isn’t essential. But it is important to understand theirs and what they're going to be looking for in a relationship. 

What’s Something Most People Don’t Know About You

This question could get them to spill a bit of tea about themselves which is always fun, but that isn’t the main intention. Whether they say something serious or make a joke out of it, learning something about them they don’t often share will build intimacy between the two of you. 

This is also a great conversation starter because it could give you the opportunity to chat about a whole new side of their personality. It’ll help if you have an answer of your own ready to fire back, because there’s a pretty high chance that they’ll ask you the exact same question.

What’s Your Pettiest Hate?

This is another question that is likely to get a pretty funny conversation started. If they admit something super petty that pisses them off, next time it happens when you’re together you’ll be able to bond by laughing about it with them.

This will also give you a good indication of how self aware they are, because they can recognise that some of the things they hate are a bit silly.

What Does Your Perfect Day Look Like?

You probably already know what kind of activities your partner enjoys, but this question will bring out their absolute favourites. Ideally your perfect day will look somewhat similar, because that makes it easy to plan dates you'll both enjoy. 

Take note of what they say and next time it’s your turn to plan a date, you’ve had the day’s plans served to you on a platter. This will show them that you really listen, and probably earn you some major kudos. 

Don’t worry, asking these questions doesn’t have to feel like you’re conducting a job interview. Ask them in a casual setting, where you’re both relaxed and having a good time. A dinner date or a day at the beach are great times to ask a couple of deeper questions.

Keep in mind that these questions aren’t a definitive way to know if someone is the right match for you. They’re more just a way to connect on a deeper level and understand them better. So if you enjoy spending time with them, that’s already a pretty good sign that you work well together.