26 Oct 2021 | 3 mins
Overview
  • A relationship should never put a burden on your education! If you can't find the time for one now, it might be a struggle in the future.
  • The choice is up to you but as long as you're with your person, they'll have your back no matter what ❤️

You know those embarrassing conversations over dinner with your parents, when they’re grilling you about your new crush and you just sit there like 👁️👄👁️ “nOoOo, stop teasing me”? We were swooning pretty hard for kids that thought kissing got someone pregnant, yet considering we didn’t mention a word of who we had feelings for, our parents always guessed right.

Well, as our knowledge and skills in school progressed, so did our feelings and the perception of what “love” was. We fell just as hard, if not harder in high school - we were vulnerable, open to first times and were ready to feel something more. 

We might have been a little reckless or even reluctant to give it a go but one thing that always crossed our minds was another person. Whether we had great high school relationships or were a little distracted flying solo, there’s no doubt it burdened our days of study.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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For those that have strict parents, IYKYK - you were spending every moment in the classroom, lovesick almost, looking forward to seeing your boyfriend or girlfriend in the quad or oval at recess and lunch because you weren’t allowed to go anywhere. 

For those with parents that just wanted to know where you were, you’d be skipping study sessions with your mates and fifth period to hang out with them at the shops. And those with parents that just didn’t care, you were chilling at their houses (jokessss, my parents cared). And yes, we were just playing video games - geez, the grilling never stops, hey?

We’re constantly drilled by our teachers and parents that our homework, assessments and exams are the most important thing in our lives to focus on but if you don’t have an outlet, something or someone to look forward to, you’ll get burnt out real quick.

 

Now, I’m not saying you need to have a partner to be happy. Nobody should want to be in a relationship, they want to be with their person. If anything, a supportive relationship and partner will help you through your studies and all the problems that pop up along the way. If someone isn’t experiencing love in their teenage years, maybe they’re not emotionally ready for it, and that’s okay too.

If anything, life after high school is only going to get harder. The responsibilities pile up, the work commitments are never ending but while some things in life aren’t certain, we do know that love brings us joy. Love, no matter the context, will always have a big part of our lives. It makes us the kind, patient and compassionate people we are today.

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As silly as it might sound, teenage love is the purest type of love - you're not with them because you think you're going to spend your whole lives together. You don't need them for security or finances, you just simply enjoy their company and love learning from each other.

So, should you stay in a relationship while studying? The choice is up to you but just know that special person in your life should never hinder or be a burden to you - they’ll support you in chasing your passions and have your back, no matter what.

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