Why You Need To Stop Comparing Your Career to Your Friends'

So let me guess - your best friend just landed a sick new job that she won't shut up about ("omg did I mention that we get free lunch every day?"). Or maybe it's your work bestie who just got promoted (along with a nice raise). Regardless, you're obviously stoked for them, but there's a little part of you that can't help but feel a bit envious. Let me tell you, jealousy is never cute but it is totally normal. So keep on reading for some tips for how to deal with those feelings. 

It's literally not good for you

First, let’s get a bit nerdy with some straight up science facts that are hard to argue with. A study published in the Journal of Psychological Science found that people who frequently compare themselves to others are less happy and more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. The study also found that people who compare themselves to others tend to have lower self-esteem and are less likely to achieve their goals. In other words, comparison really is the thief of joy... but don't stress - keep reading to find out how to stop those thoughts in their tracks. 

Comparison can also be damaging to your career. Constantly looking at what other people are doing and trying to replicate their success rarely leads to lasting fulfilment or career growth. That's because each person's career path is unique, and what works for someone else might not work for you. Trying to force yourself into someone else's shoes will only lead to frustration and disappointment. 

Here's how to carve your own path

So, how can you avoid the trap of comparison? First, focus on what you want out of your career. What are your goals? What do you enjoy doing? What are you good at? Answering these questions will help you clarify your own path and give you a sense of direction. 

Second, don't be afraid to ask for help. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your career goals and ask for their opinion. You can also reach out to a professional mentor or coach who can provide guidance and support as you navigate your way forward. 

Trust us when we say that going through life constantly comparing yourself to others is literally a recipe for misery. Not only will it make you unhappy, it could also hurt your chances of growing your career. So instead of worrying about what your friends are doing, focus on clarifying your own goals and carving out your own path. And don't forget to ask for help when you need it!