02 May 2022
Overview
  • Step 1️⃣: take a breather and distract yourself
  • Step 2️⃣: don't jump to conclusions
  • Step 3️⃣: slide on in again (but keep vibes upbeat)
  • Step 4️⃣: if it comes to it, reevaluate this situation.

So they've pulled a 'Caspar the not-so-friendly ghost' on ya. 👻

Maybe you plucked up the courage to slide into their dm's. Maybe you've been sporadically messaging banter or sharing memes and goofy anecdotes. Maybe you've even been texting on the reg. 

No matter what stage you're in, being ghosted is a horror story in itself. But there's a way to go about this. Here's how to cop being left on read. 

1. Take a breather

Breathe innnn and ouuuut. No one in a horror movie got out alive by screaming and frailing around. 

The most important thing to do is kick them off the pedestal and focus on yourself! 

Hang with your mates. Read a good book. Plan some travel adventures. Go for a long walk. Turn your phone on airplane mode. ✨Distract yourself.✨

You know that quote 'life is what happens when you're busy making other plans'? Well similar to that, love is what happens when you're busy doing other things. Haven't you noticed that when you're distracted and thriving, you get more messages? Or when you're not so worked up about seeing them, you'll run into them at the supermarket? 

2. Don’t assume the worst

"They must not be into me". "They've found someone else". "Maybe they got abducted by aliens"...

The crappy thing about having our phones with us all 👏🏼 damn 👏🏼 day 👏🏼 is that we're expected to respond within seconds. Hence why we FrEaK oUt when our crush doesn't respond ASAP rocky.

But here's the tea. They could just be taking a break from social media. Maybe they're busy or forgot to reply. 

For me personally, even if Harry Styles was hitting me up, every now and then I'd take a few hours before properly replying. I don't like feeling like a receptionist checking up with all my correspondence 24/7! I wanna be livin' away from that screen once in a while!

Don't assume the worst and let them have some space! 

3. Slide on in again

So. You've had a breather, been distracted, and stopped jumping to conclusions. If they still haven't replied in a day or two, slide on in again. There's no shame in it!

Maybe ditch the ick-worthy messages like "did your phone break or something?" or "where'd ya go?". Despo Debbie will even be rolling her eyes. 

Slide back into their dms with a relevant meme or anecdote. Keep vibes upbeat!

4. Check yourself before you wreck yourself

If in a few days they haven't replied, it may be time to reevaluate this relationship (or maybe they really did get abducted by aliens...awkward).

This is a tough pill to swallow, but at the end of the day, flicking a message to someone isn't like solving the Da Vinci code is it? If they can't spare a few seconds to give you a reply, are they really worth it? 

You deserve someone that prioritises you both digitally and IRL. Shady texting games just aren't it. You're a catch! 🥰