Our parents love to think that they know what’s best for us. It’s all coming from a good place, of course–they just want us to lead long, happy lives and make lots of money and babies. But sometimes they get a little blinded by their good intentions and things can get heated when you want to pursue one dream and your parents want you to pursue another.

This is especially true for people who want to get into the creative industries, like artists, musicians, actors and creators. Telling your ‘rents you want to work in an industry like film & television can be incredibly intimidating, but you’ve got to remember why you’re doing it. The fastest way to unhappiness it to let yourself get pushed down a path you’re not passionate about, so standing up to your parents is important. You just need to go about it in the right way.

1. Do your research

The best way to reassure your parents you’re doing the right thing is to arm yourself with the stats and facts. For example, if you’re ditching the traditional uni path tell your parents that an average uni graduate takes 2.7 years to find any kind of work and 4.7 years to find full time work.

The more info you have about the industry you wanna get into, the better you can sell your decision and put your ‘rents at ease. If you’re looking to get into the creative fields of film, live production and acting, do some research about the industry to show your parents it’s not as scary as it sounds. Screen Australia has some interesting fact sheets and reports that you can use to bulk your argument and convince your parents that the Australian film and TV industry is continuing to grow.

2. Have a plan

To help ease any anxieties your parents might have, make sure you have a step-by-step plan sorted out regarding the pathway you wanna take. Suss all your options; it could be studying a course, lining up a job straight away, or even starting your own freelance business. Whatever it is, make sure the plan of attack in clearly laid out; it’ll give your parents peace of mind and make the process a whole lot easier for you too.

The Academy of Film, Theatre and Television (AFTT) is a really great place to start if you’re looking to get into the arts. They’ve got diplomas and advanced diplomas to specialise in acting, live production and film, and their schtick is to make sure you’ve got plenty of real-world experience and are an employable graduate with plenty of industry contacts up your sleeve–exactly what your parents want to hear.

3. Then, have a backup plan

Life is uncertain and there’s always going to be a few curveballs. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to and that’s okay. Just make sure you’ve got a backup plan in mind, so if things go south your parents will know you’re going to be okay.

Actors, for one, develop skills that make them employable beyond the screen. Think things like film and TV production, working as an agent, as a presenter or in sales. Just because you have your heart set on one career, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep yourself open to other options.

Bonus Tip: Remind your ‘rents that doing this will make you happy

All your parents ever really want for you is to be happy, you just have to gently remind them that, in the end, you’re the only one who really knows what you’re passionate about and what’s going to get you up in the morning. Just tell them that this is something you have to try and that if you don’t go for it now, you’ll always be wondering ‘what if?’.

If getting into film, television, live production or acting, then definitely suss out AFTT’s Diploma or Advanced Diploma in Screen & Media. It’s a year-long course that’ll get you set up right for a career and you’ll learn the ins and out of all aspects of the industry, so you’ll have plenty of backup options too. Hopefully, you won’t have to use them though, with all the experience and industry connections the course provides, you’ll be ready to jump into a career within no time. Suss out more info and register your interest for their 2019 course here.