How To Be Independent While Living At Home

Living at home as you're growing up and maturing can be a real neg. We've all been there; that pure irritation at having to live by someone else's rules, the burning desire to sling some harsh words at your siblings. It can be a challenge.

But it's more common than you think, and at Year13 we've all been through it. So how did we survive? Let's us 'splain.

Set Boundaries

When living at home, communication is key between you and your 'rents. Let them in on when you need a bit of privacy or space, and craving some breathing room. You could say something like "I'm feeling a bit crowded atm and I'd like some privacy".

It sounds blunt, but how you deliver it is important too! Saying it in a more soft tone of voice will make the world of difference. Communicating your boundaries and setting them will set you up for a good time right off the bat. It's all about mutual respect, gang.

Voice your concerns

As we mentioned above, commuication is fundamental in keeping your relationship with your parents healthy - if you feel annoyed, angry, frustrated, sad, happy - anything - it's ok to feel whatever you feel, but make sure you let your parents know. 

That way they can go easier on you if you've had a hard day, or talk things out if there's been a miscommunication. They can't read minds, so tell 'em how you're feeling! 

Pre-plan mates or partners coming over

There's nothing more frustrating - or embarassing - than not being allowed to have mates over, or a partner come hang. Cringe. You're not a kid anymore, so that means respecting your parents' wishes - it's their house, after all. But that also means you should feel safe to ask way in advance to avoid any mishaps if they're gonna be all funny about it. 

If you want a mate to stay over, or for your cutie to come hang, tell your parents a few days before and say you wanted to be respectful - they'll apprecaiate the heck out of it the thoughtuflness. And you still get your own way. Voila. 

Give your parents privacy

Just as you might need some space from time to time, so might your parents. Especially if you're getting older and they don't need to look after you anymore - they're prob reclaiming their youth rn! 

It's their time to focus on themselves, so give them the privacy they deserve too. Go hang with a mate to give them time together, or suggest they invite a mate over or arrange a dinner. You'll get serious brownie points.

Plan your 'out'

As much as you love your fam, and enjoy the luxury of living at home - it might be time to start thinking about when you might be ready to fly the ol' nest.

In a month? A year? Five years? Your call - but planning it with your parents will give you all a sense of connecton and togetherness, planning the next chapter of your life as a family - and gives you the chance to feel all grateful and nostalgic about your time living with your parents instead of fed up. 

Nothing lasts forever - so go get 'em. ✨